Anyone who has tried to get intimate while suffering a flare-up knows that the benefits of sex for arthritis are something easier talked about than achieved. Issues with mobility and grip strength can be frustrating, painful, and uncomfortable, making sex feel like a chore. However, with a few changes in position and the addition of a couple of sex toys, sex (and all the benefits it brings) can be possible for you.
If your knees are inflamed, the last thing you want to be doing is doggie style. Same goes for any standing or crouching positions that can exacerbate your pain. Try these positions instead.
Positions for Women
Positions for Men
Any position that requires a lot of gripping or arm strength is likely going to give you problems if your arthritis is in your wrists and hands. Choose some of these hands-free positions instead.
Positions for Women
Positions for Men
Of course, you don’t have to stick to one position. Switching it up makes the sex more exciting and reduces the potential for repetitive motion aches and pains. You can also mix a few of the positions together. Mainly, look for positions that allow you and your partner’s bodies to connect naturally—and of course, don’t forget the foreplay.
One thing that a lot of people with arthritis struggle with is grip strength, especially when trying to stimulate their partners. Stiffness in the hands and wrists can make it difficult to massage and titillate your partner’s erogenous zones. There are more than a few toys that do a lot of the work for you, allowing you to focus on the pleasure rather than the pain.
Compact Massagers. A finger massager kit allows you to stimulate your partner’s erogenous zones without the need to grip a toy, or the pressure that repetitive motion can often cause on sensitive wrists.
Ben Wa Balls. Ben wa balls allow for long-lasting and completely hands-free stimulation. They can be inserted for vaginal play, or they can be placed just inside the labia, to stimulate the clitoris during sex. These small balls can have a big impact, so feel free to get creative.
Vibrating Straps. A doggie-style strap, like the one mentioned above, is especially useful for increasing stability in a number of positions by wrapping around your partner and making it easier to pull them close to you. And if it’s a vibrating strap, your partner will receive greater g-spot stimulation without you needing to hold a vibrator.
Nipple Clips. Nipples are sensitive for both men and women, so a good way to provide ongoing stimulation is with some nipple clips. For arthritis sufferers, you’ll likely want to choose nipple clips that have a slider adjuster rather than a screw style one, to make it easier to place and adjust them.
The fact that you have arthritis shouldn’t hold you back from having amazing sex. Use it as an opportunity to get creative. You may find that you have some desires you didn’t even know about, like an appetite for anal play or a desire to be dominated. Arthritis could be the catalyst that helps you explore you and your partners kinkier sides.
The only limitations when you’re considering sex and arthritis are what you feel comfortable doing. [link to communication post when live] There are more than a few proven positions for sex success, but don’t let yourself be limited by that. Get experimental, take a few risks, and you may find that sex with arthritis isn’t just possible, it’s better than it ever was!
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